Marriage Counseling - Saving Your Marriage

A Little Book of Romance: 101 Ways to Make Your Marriage Sizzle

Coach — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 17:32:12 +0000

Debra White Smith, author of Romancing Your Husband and Romancing Your Wife (combined sales of 140,000 copies), helps couples spice up their love lives. From gentle suggestions to playful ideas, readers will enjoy options that include: Commit 30 minutes a day to listening to your spouse. Maintain your focus even if the topic is something you’re not really interested in. For anniversaries, buy a flower for every month. Yes, this bouquet may be huge. That’s the point! (more...)

Top 10 Ways To Rekindle The Magic In Your Marriage

Coach — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 06:55:25 +0000

Is your marriage losing the magic and romance it once had?

I have news for you.....

You’re not alone.

When a couple have been living with the same spouse for a long time, things will get comfortable and too stable. The familiarity between couples can also kill the spark that make the marriage special to begin with.

It is time you take action and rekindle the magic again....

Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

BECOME KIDS AGAIN

If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.

SEND THEM A UNIQUE GIFT

Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner's workplace, such as:

“For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith
Solicitors, New York.”

Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

FUN WITH WATER

On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

BRING BACK CHILDHOOD MEMORIES

Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.

SHOW YOU’RE GRATEFUL FOR YOUR PARTNER

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming into my life."

STARE AT THE CLOUDS

Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.

A MASSAGE WITH A TWIST

Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

WALK ALONG THE BEACH

Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.

ORGANIZE A PICNIC ON A WARM SUMMER’S NIGHT

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

SPICE UP YOUR LOVEMAKING

Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other.

Why?

Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.

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Coach — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 05:59:02 +0000

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Saving Your Marriage – Top 10 Wrong Reasons to Stay in a Marriage

Coach — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 08:07:02 +0000

While surfing the web, I found this great article that I simply must share with you. Hope you find it useful.

Do you agree with the author?......

Top 10 Wrong Reasons to Stay in a Marriage
By Anamika S

Not all marriages are made in heaven. A marriage in order to be a happy one takes a considerable amount of work from the side of both the couples. There are many couples who stay glued to their miserable and unhappy marriages for various reasons. While there are people who get divorced even if there are chances to save the marriage because it is the easy way out many couples tend to stick to their marriages even if they are miserable and not happy with their relationship. Given are top 10 wrong reasons to stay married.

1) Staying Married for Children: Many couples are obligated to stay married even if they are in a loveless marriage because they think that a Divorce can affect the children adversely and 2 parents is better than one. Even if they have fallen out of love with their spouse most parents prefer to suffer instead and not part ways as they love their kids and would not want to cause any harm to them. But what they forget is that their frequent fights, behavior with each other and other indifferences can affect the kids too. Just because you have children does not mean that you should suffer miserably in a relationship you don't want to be in. Moreover, by staying together in an unhappy marriage you are teaching your kids that when they get married even if things go wrong they should not go for a divorce but prefer to suffer in the relationship. Think again, is that the example you wish to set for your children?

2) Staying Married for Financial Security: Money is a great motivator when it comes to staying in miserable marriages.Mostly Woman tends to stay in such marriages because of the comforts and perks they get in the husbands house. The same applies for a man who survives mostly on his wife's income. But one thing they forget is that no amount of money can buy love or happiness. Staying together for money is one of the stupidest things anyone can do!

3) Staying Married because of Guilt: Many men and women stay in marriages because they feel guilty that they have ruined the other person's life, especially in love marriages. Even if they have fallen out of love with their spouse or fallen in love with someone else they prefer not to let their spouse know about it by staying married. What they forget is that they are being unfaithful and only troubling themselves and not doing their spouses any favors by keeping them in a relationship with someone who doesn't love them anymore.

4) Staying Married to prove that their choice was right: This happens mostly with couples who have opted for love marriages against the wishes of their parents. When things turn sour they keep the pretence of a happy marriage in front of others to prove that their choice was not wrong and that they are happy with their choices. What they are forgetting is that they are only causing more pain to themselves by doing so.

5) Staying Married to Honor the Vows: Many couples stay in unhappy marriages because they are made to believe that marriage is forever. It would not be wrong to say that there are many who stay glued to their Marriages because of the marriage vows that marriage is a life time commitment and they are married for better or worse. Staying with someone you don't want to be with because it's expected of you by your religion or community would only make you to suffer more pain and grief.

6) Staying Married because of low self esteem and loneliness: Many times low self esteem can prevent people from taking the right decisions. You can't blame them because they do not know their worth and do not realize that they can do better. Many men and women with low self esteem even lose hope that they could be happy at all.Women especially tend to find emotional security in their marriages. Even when the marriage show signs of an unhappy marriage there are many people who do not opt out as they are lonely and have no parents or friends to turn to. They find security in their marriage and would not want to step out of their comfort zone even if they are unhappy.

7) Staying Married because they do not want to be like their Parents: Many Children who have suffered the effects of Divorce of parents stay glued to their marriages because they do not want their children to suffer the way they did or want to be like their own parents.

Been forced to stay together: Many times couples are forced to stay together in marriage because of society pressures and pressures of family or relatives who are worried about their reputation than the feelings of the couples who are miserable and suffering the effects of an unhappy marriage. Remember that you are the one who is suffering and you have the right to rectify the condition.

9) Staying Married for Property or Assets: Many times, the couple would have build together houses, purchased property or build business together which they are both attached to and would not want to give up for any reason.

10) Staying Married is less expensive: Some Men feel that staying married is less expensive than getting a Divorce especially if they have to shell out huge alimony settlement for opting out.

I feel that all the above reasons are bad enough. I have personally witnessed some of my friends who were divorced from their miserable first marriages find a very contented and happy second marriage. So, if you are in a marriage for wrong reasons, think again. Is it really worth to be in an unhappy marriage?

Anamika is an Expert on topics like Feng Shui, Relationships, Astrology, Hindu Mantras etc. Visit her Blog on Relationships and Dating for relationship advice on various issues.

http://relationships-love-marriage-articles.blogspot.com

Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts Workbook for Men

Coach — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 13:48:45 +0000

This workbook accompanies Les and Leslie Parrott?s book, Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts. Twenty exercises help each husband through issues covered in the book.

From the Back Cover

Remarriage is nearly as common in our culture as first marriages, yet more than 60 percent of remarriages end in divorce. Second marriages with children are twice as likely to end in divorce as remarriages without. Many couples conclude within the first months o (more...)

Making Marriage Work: A History of Marriage and Divorce in the Twentieth-Century United States (Hardcover)

Coach — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 23:18:50 +0000

Review

"A lively history. . . . Accessible and enjoyable too." â?? The Feminist Review"A lucid description of the rise and sociological impact of the concept that spouses must work hard to make their marriage work."? Catholic News Service"An intellectual and cultural history of modern marriage and divorce leavened with rich insights into married love and labor. Celello revises and refines the history of twentieth-century marriage to a story of experts successfully persuading (more...)

What Makes Men Cheat? Why Do Men Cheat?

Jeanette — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 09:03:18 +0000

An answer that has long been awaiting an answer is why do men cheat? It seems as though the number that cheat is higher than the number that don't. You see men with beautiful women on their arms and the next thing you know they have broken up because he cheated.

The old saying men will be men, has been turned into an all around cheater slogan. A real man is not a man that cheats on his women because he wants another. A real man is someone who is willing to work out his relationship problems in hopes of saving what he already has waiting for him at home.

However if you want to prevent it, talk it out with your man or woman. Voice out your likes and dislikes. Most importantly you should want to make it happen and remain one partner person. Gifts do matter, but sometimes they fail to change things and make your love life better.

Men have ego's about as big as they come. Many of them only equate their belt notches of conquered females with their general worth to society. Not the greatest approach, but unfortunately, far too many men look at it that way. Regardless of what they have waiting for them at home, they don't feel like a man unless they can bed everyone woman that so much as looks their way. So these are the answers to why do men cheat.

You need to understand, that a relationship like everything else in life is unpredictable. So you should never take anything for granted and make sure that you watch out for the signs of cheating. Even though you might think you are in a happy relationship, things may sometimes happen that are beyond your control and that you cannot do to prevent it. Please take what I'm telling you seriously and consider it!

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Getting Marriage Records: How to get Marriage Information On-line Quickly

Jeanette — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 08:51:43 +0000

There are several places over the internet where you can acquire marriage data. Your reasoning for needing the records data will control where you need to begin your lookup.

As an example, websites like Ancestry and RootsWeb can assist you in finding genealogy info. Members are offered free and paid subscription options by both of these websites.

When looking for your family roots, sometimes marriage licenses will help piece together missing data or gaps in your family line. Nonetheless, more recent info may be required as well. If the records you are interested in tend to be more current, the Department of Public record information in your town can be a more successful place to look.

The NCHS web site will provide you with more details on contacting your local Department of Vital Information and how much money is required to buy a marriage record. Information for each state can be found on the site also.

As an example, this site informs you that obtaining a copy of a marriage certificate only costs around $12. The state holds marriage certificates from 1936 to now. Genealogy websites will be the place to look if you need information any earlier than that. Of course, different states have different requirements. Before sending a request, it would be a good idea to read up on your particular state's requirements and know more about their procedure.

Another thing to consider would be that the local public record information office may only supply data to the person on the file or to individuals with a legitimate purpose to acquire it. In any other case, you may need a order from the court to get a duplicate of someone else's marriage information. This holds true for additional varieties of public records which includes birth certificates, death certificates, adoption records plus much more. A quick call to the public record information office will reveal certain requirements.

You can find websites that can get the data for you online, for a fee. Of the many available sites, Akiba, Intelius, and SearchSystems are some of the popular places people can go for all sorts of personal information such as marriage documents.

These websites offer fast and handy results at the press of a button. Vital Records offices usually takes a lot longer to discover the records for you than websites like these can. In some places Vital Records offices are being updated and now have sites out there to help you find the files you need more quickly and easily. More affordable and easier is always the way to go, even when acquiring a marriage record, so make sure to do your research and find out about the options available where you live.

Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship (Paperback)

Coach — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 11:29:20 +0000

Amazon.com Review

You don't have to have sex to cheat on your marriage, counsels M. Gary Neuman in his practical and provocative book, Emotional Infidelity. Neuman, a therapist, family mediator, and rabbi, suggests that when you invest your emotional energy in opposite-sex coworkers or friends--instead of focusing on your spouse--you are unfaithful to your marriage. With clear case examples, scenes from his own marriage, quizzes, and exercises, Neuman illustrates 11 "secrets" tha (more...)

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To Infidelity and Back (Hardcover)

Coach — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 17:29:51 +0000

This book contains the author's 'religious experience in a forty years' sojourn on earth'.
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Marriage Counseling - Saving Your Marriage

A Little Book of Romance: 101 Ways to Make Your Marriage Sizzle

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Top 10 Ways To Rekindle The Magic In Your Marriage

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Understanding The Sex Myths About Your Spouse Can Save Your Marriage

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Saving Your Marriage – Top 10 Wrong Reasons to Stay in a Marriage

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Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts Workbook for Men

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Making Marriage Work: A History of Marriage and Divorce in the Twentieth-Century United States (Hardcover)

Recommended Reading

What Makes Men Cheat? Why Do Men Cheat?

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Getting Marriage Records: How to get Marriage Information On-line Quickly

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Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship (Paperback)

To Infidelity and Back (Hardcover)