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Top 5 Signs That Your Boyfriend or Husband Is Cheating
By Melody Chase
CounsellorInABox.com

Any one who has read my other articles may notice that I don’t distinguish very often as to whether there are gender specific signs of a partner cheating.

So you may be wondering – are there any specific signs of your male partner cheating that are different than the signs of a female partner cheating?

If you are interested in finding out, this article explores the Top 5 Signs that your male partner is cheating.

I have a question for you…

Have you ever noticed that when it comes to OTHER peoples relationships, everyone suddenly turns into Dick Tracy?

Just tell them what’s going on in someone else’s relationship and they will instantly roll their eyes and say “well she’s
cheating on him” or “he’s screwing someone else”.

A funny thing happens though when it comes to your own relationships.  People go from being “super detective” to
being deaf, dumb and blind.

The reason for this is they lack OBJECTIVITY.

They cannot look at their own relationships with any objectivity.  They can spot someone in another relationship
cheating from a mile away, but can’t do the same with their own.

And this is the 3rd notorious mistake people make when they think they’re being cheated on.

You absolutely must distance yourself from your relationship –  examine the facts — and add everything up from there.

This is also known as becoming emotionally detached.

Let me put it to you this way.

Think back to one of the happiest periods in your life — a time where a lot of things seemed to be going right.

Now, if during that time one of your friends had come to you to “lean on your shoulder” about some relationship problems they were having (and as it turns out their problems are identical to what you’re now going through), what would your thoughts have been?

Not what are your thoughts right now, but what would your thoughts have been about this during that happy period in
your life.

You probably would have a different opinion about your relationship back then you do now.

You see, right now you don’t have any clarity, any objectivity.

But you need to get it right now — and bad.

Try to look at your relationship as if it were someone else’s.  It’s not easy to do, but everyone has the ability to
do it.

Do it, and you’ll probably be surprised at what you come up with.

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I’m not going to waste any time here.

So here it goes.

One word.

MANIPULATION.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when they think they’re being cheated on is allowing themselves to be
manipulated.

This is where you start to think that you’re being cheated on, but your better half convinces you that you’re not.

What you need to know is that men and women manipulate differently.

Women manipulate men physically.

They do this by using their bodies (think SEX here).

A woman can pretty much get a man to think or do whatever they want by offering sex, or at least physical contact.

For example, if you’re a man and your woman starts to think that you’re “catching on” to what she’s doing behind your
back, she’ll offer herself physically as a method of changing your mind.

Maybe she’ll have sex with you.  Maybe she will just let you put your arm around her.  Maybe she’ll just let you touch
her while she’s sitting next to you on the couch watching TV.

In any event, she’ll offer you some sort of physical interaction that will make you think “gee, maybe she isn’t cheating on me”.

If you’re a man, remember this….women control almost all physical encounters.

After all, if a woman says “NO”, it’s rape.

The same rules don’t apply to men.

Now on the other side of the coin, men will manipulate by EMOTION.

A man can get a woman to think or do whatever he wants by pretty much just saying what she wants to hear (or doing
some little romantic trick like sending flowers).

A man can sweep a woman off her feet with just words.

A simple “I love you” or “you’re everything I’ve ever wanted and more” can emotionally melt most women.

So these are the things you need to watch out for.

If you think your lover is cheating on you, and then all of a sudden they do something “to make everything alright”, you
my friend have just been manipulated.

I know of men (who’s wives or girlfriends were cheating on them) who bought expensive jewelry for their woman just
because of some type of physical contact.

I know of women (who’s husbands or boyfriends were cheating on them) who dropped the whole notion of infidelity just because of receiving flowers or getting a loving message left on their answering machine.

You need to be completely aware of manipulation like this in your relationship.

If you’ve been emotionally abused or physically neglected for a time, and then all of a sudden something changes that
makes you happy and relieved, odd’s are you’re being manipulated.

Some women call this a “mercy …”.

Some men call this “throwing her off the trail”.

In any event, you’re letting your NEEDS open the door for your lover or your spouse to keep cheating on you, undetected.

Manipulation is a very important key to look out for.

If you’re “starving” for something in your relationship and then all of a sudden you get “fed”, well, there’s a reason
for that.

And that reason is that your lover may be thinking you’re “on to them”.

Manipulation is the FIRST thing they’ll use to shut you up.

Watch out for it and don’t fall for it!  Remember what was said here!

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Let’s start out by talking about the laws of nature.

When it rains you get wet.  Big animals eat small animals. If you don’t drink water you will die.

People cheat on each other.

Did you catch the last one?

Human beings are not monogamous by nature.

We don’t mate exclusively for life with the first partner we choose.

We have many mates throughout our lifetime.

And we don’t just have sex to reproduce. Some animals do.  Human beings do not.

But when it comes to infidelity, people think that the laws of nature do not apply to them. They think that no one would ever cheat on them because they’re too good in bed, too good looking, too wealthy, too good at this, too good at that and so on and so on.

“He would never do that to me, he loves me”

“She would never do that, she has it too good”

The #1 biggest, most notorious reason why affairs go undetected is because people refuse to believe that it can happen to them.

Well let me tell you right now that the laws of nature apply to everyone — including you.

I don’t care who you are – a celebrity – a bum – a mother – a father – a nobody. Anyone, and I mean anyone, can cheat on you. If you don’t accept this fact, you will miss every little thing your lover or spouse does that screams “I’m cheating on you”.

Let me tell you a little story… An old friend came to my door one day to cry on my shoulder about the troubles he was having with his wife.

She was doing all of this strange things, he saw her hugging another man in a parking lot, she wouldn’t sleep in the same bed with him and so on.

I mean any 6 year old could have seen she was cheating on him. It was that obvious. But he refused to believe it.

Why?

Well here were his answers, in order:

1.  He pays for everything and he doesn’t cheat on her, so why would she cheat?

2.  He asked her if she was cheating and she said no.

3.  He’s smarter than her.

This is the perfect example of someone who doesn’t think the laws of nature apply to them. He couldn’t believe that someone would cheat on him.  He couldn’t “get over himself”. And the fact of the matter is that almost everyone thinks this way at one time or another.

If you don’t believe that it can happen to you, if you think that you are that one special person in the universe where the laws of nature don’t apply to you, you’re going to have a miserable time of it.

Want to know what ended up happening to my old friend?

He’s currently going through a bitter divorce that he doesn’t want.  She left him and was the one that filed.  And gee, she also has a boyfriend that works at the same place she does! And he still can’t believe what’s happening to him!

Does this sound similar to anyone you know?

Now let’s recap the most important points for you to know:

1.  You must accept the cold hard facts that anyone can and will cheat on you.  It’s human nature.  If you don’t “get over yourself” and accept this, you’re in for a lot of misery.

2.  Don’t ever expect your lover or spouse to admit to you that they are having an affair.

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Does it seem like relationships and cheating go to together like chocolate and peanut butter? It can start to when everyone you know has had someone cheat on them. And chances are that you’ve had someone cheat on you. Or when it comes to relationships and cheating, you were the one doing the cheating. Cheating hurts. It hurts the person who’s being cheated on, and believe it or not, it hurts the cheater. The cheater has to hide what he’s doing, probably has to lie to keep it a secret and has to feel the guilt that goes with it. Even if he or she doesn’t seem guilty, they probably secret feel guilty. When there are relationships and cheating occurs, that doesn’t mean the end of the relationship every time.